15 Mistakes Women Make That Can Ruin Their Marriage

On Monday January 27, 2020, a Federal High Court sitting in Abuja, sentenced one Mariam Sanda to death by hanging, because she had killed her husband over allegations of infidelity.

It is obvious that the sad incident occurred out of anger because no woman in her right senses will kill her husband.

There are many things involved in infidelity, and it has been proven overtime that there is almost nothing anyone can do to prevent the other partner from cheating, because it is a choice and even the best husbands and wives get cheated upon.

It is however important to note, that some attitudes and characters can actually trigger the thought of cheating in a spouse ,and it is our responsibility to ensure that we do our best to keep our marriage together and our partner satisfied with us, to the best of our ability.

In this article, I’ll highlighting 15 things women do which put their marriage in danger and hope they take note and most importantly, those involved turn a new leaf to preserve their marriage.

1) Daring Your Husband to Beat You

Many women have lost their lives or nursing serious and permanent injuries because of this attitude of daring their husbands to beat them. The man becomes extremely frustrated because of the tongue lashing that usually precedes this unholy request. Some women even lock the door and lock the man by the neck and most of the time; such women have ended up regretting their actions.

2) Daring Your Husband to Sleep With Another Woman

Human beings generally don’t like to be dared and you will be doing yourself a great disservice if dare your husband to sleep with another woman. He may just do it to see your reaction and only God knows what can happen afterwards.

3) Neglecting Your Body and Looks After Marriage

If you are among those women who think that because they are now married they can dress anyhow, they no longer have to put in effort to look good, please jump down from this table speedily because I’m about to break it. How can you somebody’s son marry you slim and chic, chubby and sleek and you now loose yourself by eating anyhow and now you are almost shapeless.

Many married women don’t even do basic exercises anymore, eat anyhow, dress shabbily and always looking unkempt. Please stop it! There were things you were doing that endeared your husband to you, please don’t stop doing them otherwise, he might just start finding you unattractive and you know the implications of that.

4) Denying Your Husband Sex Regularly

So you are a career woman or you are an overly religious woman;… Hmmm! You feel sex in marriage is secondary, your husband has to beg before he possesses his possession right, you deny your husband your body regularly, so he is sexually starved and intimacy is nowhere to be found in your marriage. Meanwhile, his Secretary, colleagues and girls in Church are seducing to come to them but you the rightful owner  have padlocked your Jerusalem and expect him not to lust after others. His mind will drift from you towards them and it will be very difficult for him not to fall because sex is very important to men, so be careful.

5) Allowing Your Friends to Cater to Your Husband

“My dear friend, please help me take care of my husband while I am away on this business trip for one week, help me take care of my husband and my children”. My sister, this is a very risky game to play because there is no guarantee that you will still have a husband by the time you are back.

Meanwhile, the chances of you having a co-wife and your children having step-mom is very high so therefore, think very well before you embark on that trip, especially if you know the resistance level of your husband is very low.

6) Giving Your Housemaid Unlimited Access to Your Husband

Many women rely on maids so much that the maid is the one that cooks, cleans the house, cares for the children and even the husband while they watch movies and hang out with friends. The maid has taken over running of the family daily affairs while “madam” only shouts orders and instructions. Well, it’s only a matter of time, before the maid extends her services to your matrimonial bed and under your husband, so you better have a brain reset.

7) Employing An Adult As A Maid

Some women are so bold to bring a well-endowed grown up lady into their home as a maid. They assume that because the girl came from the village she doesn’t know anything. You will be amazed that though she may not know so much but she is very well skilled in that area and may seduce your husband.

Please don’t make such a mistake!

8) Employing a Housemaid That Is More Beautiful Than You

You see a girl with full options, bigger and better than the ones you have and you feel that just because she doesn’t know anything she is not a threat, I laugh in Spanish. Employing a house girl more beautiful than you is a major technical mistake most women make. Doing that is simply using your money to employ a rival for yourself. Don’t be foolish when getting a maid. They act dumb to you for the time being but when they start getting down with your husband, you will be shocked at how confident they will be to fight you and mess you up.

9) Refusing to Upgrade to Digital Mentality

We are in a digital world and everything has now been affected by technology. Therefore, a woman who wants to be on top of her game must be versatile and have knowledge in a lot of things so that she can have intelligent conversations with her husband. Your husband is growing with ideas and all; you contribute nothing than sitting down at home to eat. He is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap; you are celebrating the fact that you are a married woman to a Yuppy cute man. Your husband is on Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp etc but the only thing you know about mobile phone is receiving and making calls. Your husband is talking about stock market; you only talk about tomato market. He’s talking about Forex; you are talking about fruit and vegetables only. He will see you so backwards, local and dumb. Upgrade please!

10) Ignoring the God Factor

It is amazing how women pray a lot when they are single but suddenly become too busy to pray and commit their family to God after marriage.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking you have all the knowledge you need to hold your family together. Man’s wisdom is nothing, please go ahead and put God in charge of the affairs of your home and you will not regret it.

11) Making Your Mother-in-Law Your Enemy

It amazes me how many single ladies do not wish to have a mother-in-law but pray to have children. Please note that the moment you become a mother you have also automatically become a mother-in-law and if you have male children, you will receive exactly what you wish your current mother-in-law.

There is no winning any war with mother-in-laws so it is advisable you try your best to keep a cordial relationship with her. You should understand that she has a very deep history with your husband and so you don’t expect to come and stop their relationship except to join them so that you can have peace of mind and enjoy your husband.

Respect your mother in-law, not all of them are wicked and not all are witches. If you meet a wicked one, apply wisdom and avoid her as much as possible and peacefully too.

12) Making Your Sexual Life Public

Most women have carelessly lost their husbands as they boast to their friends “my husband is too sexually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to sex, he is a horse, he almost kills me in bed, he has a horse size” etc… Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.

13) Reporting Your Husband To His Mum

Under no circumstance should you report your husband to his mother. Children can never be wrong in their mother’s eyes so save yourself the stress. Especially because whatever you report will come back to hurt you and you are inadvertently exposing your marriage unduly and giving extended family licenses to interfere in your marital affairs.

14) Replacing Your Husband With The Children

Many wives abandon their husbands, denying them of love, care and attention. As soon as babies begin to arrive, they transfer all affection to their kids. To sleep in bed, they put the Baby in between themselves making the man feel lost and the bond divided. No warm hugs, caress, light kisses and even sex becomes a chore and a scheduled activity. Many men are dying in silence because of this lack of attention and research has shown that this is the point men stray most as they are very vulnerable at this time.

15) Commercializing Sex

Sex is very important in marriage. In fact, it is one of the major reasons marriage are enacted and a very strong binding force for those involved. It creates intimacy and love but unfortunately,  in many homes, sex has become a bone of contention. Some women have turned sex to a tool of manipulation; they use it to trade for barter, make the man suffer so much before he gets what rightfully belongs to him.

This is very bad and if you are on this table please just get down and dispose the broken pieces of the table in your dustbin at home. Stop denying your husband of conjugal pleasure if you are sure you don’t want to lose him to a young school girl who is ready to give him any style every time he wants it. Also try to be sexually vast, be sexy, be erotic, and flirt with your man even while he is still at work. When you understand that the ladies outside are willing to go to any length to have your man especially if he has small money at his disposal, you will also see the need to become adventurous in bed so that you will keep him sexually satisfied.

Remember that the good book says that ‘a wise woman builds her home but the foolish one break it down’ so do everything within your power to secure your home and be found pleasing to God and your husband.